Posts Tagged ‘Food For Thought’
November 12, 2013
I had a realization today that I make excuses for so many things.
Sometimes I am okay with it and fall back on “when I am done dancing this will change” or “when I have more of a normal schedule this can happen.”
There comes a point when reality sets in and those excuses just seem lame.
Eventually, I get that am just falling into the lure of it… because I can.
A perfect example is the state of my current workout routine:
Where I used to go to the gym four times a week with a long run on the weekend, I have let the busyness of outings, visits from friends and cold weather get in the way.
When I take a step back and look at my calendar there is always something that can get in my way if I let it.
This week it’s the extreme soreness of my body. For some reason, this past week has felt hard on it and my neck, arms, shoulders and back feel fried, which is not exactly the best motivation to hit the gym.
Today I have two options:
1. Say I’ll go to the gym another day because my body deserves it’s rest. (When – in reality – I haven’t been to the gym in almost a week.)
2. Get over the excuse and get it done.
Since working from home, it feels like I have to make much more of an effort to leave the house and get things done. Really. When I was in an office environment, my mind was always go-go-go and I got so much done even on an hour lunch break. I was dressed and ready to attack the day with a cup of coffee in my hand and excited for after-work activities when the day was through.
Now, I’m on my own schedule for the most part. And when it’s cold and snowy outside it takes something really important to get me out the door. I’ll start asking myself…”Do I really need to go and get milk today?”
Ha! It’s actually kind of pathetic when you think about it. I currently have more time than I ever had before, yet I have more excuses. Explain that one.
Sitting here with a smirk on my face, I wanted to share some of the ways I have learned to tackle the concept of making excuses. Because I know I’m not the only one who can fall into them!
• Think about what the outcome of putting your task off will be.
Will it affect you in a big way? Slow you down and push you further away from your goals? Add more to your plate later and stress you out? More than likely, it’s not worth giving into.
• Figure out where the excuse is coming from.
Are you just being lazy? Allowing others to get into your brain? Scared or shy of what or where the task will get you?
There’s a difference in being lazy and reasonably accepting a valid point:
Thinking “If I finish what I started now, it might make me late for my commitment tonight.” vs. “I can just do it tomorrow because I don’t really feel like dealing with it today.” Sadly, I can relate I do the later quite well and is what you call procrastination at it’s finest, my friends.
• Remember how it feels when you finish.
Is it a workout or assignment you’ve been putting off? Whenever you feel like shoving it to the side, think of how accomplished you feel when you finally complete it or turn it in. Hey, remember the feeling of getting off of work on a Friday evening if you need to!
Keep those achievements stored in a little box in your brain to open and dip into any time you need some “do it now” motivation.
(Or just wear motivational messages on your leggings!)
• Foresee the future train of excuses.
Excuses are habitual. If you make one, more than likely another will follow.
- Today’s my cheat day, so I’m going to allow myself to have pizza for lunch. Then a cheeseburger for dinner, followed by a slice of apple pie for dessert. And another. “Because it’s my cheat day.”
- This week is too busy to add anything extra on my plate. I have to stay focused on <insert school/work/family>, so I don’t have time to do anything else not already scheduled in. I’ll have to catch up with that friend or take that yoga class another time. But next week is a holiday, and then my in-laws come into town the one after that.
- It’s just not my week. Crazy things are happening (speeding tickets, drama, injuries) and I can’t stop them. So I’ll just mope around and get through the rest of it. Until when? Monday? Because that’s the start of another one and things just magically fall into place? Only you can change the outcome and attitude of your days.
• Just say yes and move on.
Stop saying no and making excuses. Seriously. As soon as you sense a negative vibe coming at you, block it off.
Take a moment to look at the situation and decipher ways you can handle it. Option A may get you some extra time, but Option B gets you here. Which one is going to help you out in the long run and which one is going to keep you in this middle rut of thinking about it.
I’m not just hinting towards eating healthy and working out either. I’m talking about life and about allowing yourself to let the extra excitements in. Embracing last minute opportunities and not saying “no” just because it wasn’t planned. I am notorious for this, but am also learning to be more spontaneous.
You probably could have already done it by now.
And now you feel silly for wasting all of that time thinking about it.
Let me save you some time… just say “yes” and move on.
I’m no life expert, but I do run this blog and it’s here to express more than a healthy recipe, event, or workout from time to time. I don’t plan these types of posts out ahead of time and I just sit down and write them when I feel them. Most of the time, I am writing myself and hope I take my own advice!
Today it worked. While I only have limited time before having to be somewhere, I could have easily slacked and spent my time doing who knows what not doing what I need to be doing. Instead, I’m getting dressed in my workout clothes, making a list of today’s to-do’s, getting my sore booty to the gym and arriving to my commitment with a smile on my face… because I got past my excuses.
And in the end that feeling conquers all.
Questions of the Day
• What is one way you get past the urge to make excuses?
• What holds you back from always saying “yes”?
• What’s your favorite soup recipe? (I’m dying to try out a new one tonight!)
August 29, 2013
I have been doing a lot of thinking lately. I am not quite sure where this need for self-love and reflection is coming from, but I’m embracing it. And since I write a blog, I’m sharing it with you.
Do you know what has been the number one thing on my mind?
Growing up vs. not growing up.
28 years old is a strange age for me to grasp. I have officially entered into the “late twenties” category, and am starting to wonder what exactly that means. I woke up thinking about this and stumbling across this “30 Signs You’re Almost 30″ article did me in. That is my life!
When I think back to my college days, I would have bet high dollars that at this age I would be a mother, settled into a home, and possibly into a full-time career. I would have told you that my nights will consist of making dinner, tucking the little ones into their beds, and spending my down time catching up on laundry, cleaning up, and relaxing with the occasional glass of wine. That nights out will only be on the weekends, if we had a babysitter, and they will be something I would look forward to and have in the calendar weeks ahead of time. Friday nights will be “pizza nights” just because. Sundays will be “family day” and after lunch, I will spend the rest of the day getting ready for the busy work week ahead.
When I think back to five years ago, I would have said the same thing.
When I think back to two years ago, it makes me laugh a little.
Nothing about what I wrote above has happened. But, I couldn’t be more okay with it! Here’s why.
On one hand, I feel like I have matured greatly over the past five years. I have learned from mistakes, grown spiritually, and have found exactly what I want to get out of life. I want to be me. I want to live a happy, healthy life and inspire others to do the same. I want to dance. I want to share my stories and surround myself with positive people. I want to set goals and reach them. I want to make a difference!
Not Growing Up
On the other hand, I still feel like I am a 21-year-old who doesn’t have it all figured out. I’m not quite ready to be a mother. I’m selfish and want to be able to go out of town on a moment’s notice if the opportunity presents itself. I like to spend my extra income on things like makeup, dinners out, and little indulgences that make me happy. I’m not ready to sacrifice things I like and want to do and completely change my schedule. I like to have a good time after a game and hang out with my friends. I like to make breakfast for dinner. For now, keeping up with Roadie and the cats is enough responsibility.
I am completely content with where I am and what I am doing.
Seeing people post baby pictures and home improvement projects on their houses used to leave me feeling a little left out. I wanted to own a home and start remodeling it room by room. I wanted to create the coolest permanent home office. I wanted a game/entertainment room for adults and a play room for kids. I wanted to create a place to call my own and start traditions in one place with my family.
With every wedding anniversary comes the question from friends and family about our plans for children and our future. Now that we live far away from a lot of them, catch up calls are required and in turn, so is an update of life each time. It’s not uncommon for those close to us to wonder what our next move (figuratively not literally) in life is.
We really don’t know. Starting a family is something Scott and I go back and forth about every day. We firmly believe that everything happens for a reason at the right time, and it hasn’t happened yet for a reason.
Am I ready to grow up, and for that matter is Scott ready to grow up?
Only time will tell.
For now, I will continue to enjoy being the grandma of my dance team and hang with the best of ‘em! Doing what I love and loving what I do is all I am striving for.
Something To Think About
Embrace the present.
Stop worrying about what may or may not happen tomorrow.
Some things are in your control, but most of life isn’t.
Only you have the choice to make each day better than the last.
(Thought this little nugget from Tina was appropriate.)
Don’t compare yourself to others.
Don’t live off of silly life timelines and deadlines.
Do YOU and be HAPPY with who that is!
June 4, 2013
Blogging is a funny funny thing.
We use blogs to network, share journeys, inspire, and even expand our businesses. My blog has always incorporated a big part of my personal life, and I have a feeling that won’t be changing any time soon.
Here (and through other social media outlets like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.) I share pictures and stories of big milestones in our lives, exciting news, accomplishments and every day adventures.
The blogs I enjoy reading and find myself revisiting often do the same thing. I like getting inspiration for healthy eating, workouts, and ideas for new things to get into, but I also like getting to know the person behind the writing. For this reason, I always include personal posts and pictures of me, my friends, and my family.
Today I am writing about a subject I have been wanted to share with you all for quite some time. Ready?
We’re Not Perfect
Marriage is also a funny funny thing.
I am not comparing it to blogging, but I am relating the two because people tend to only see the good things broadcasted. Truth is, marriage – just like any kind of relationship – takes work and is not by any means a breeze.
Scott is and always will be the number one person in my life, my best friend, my partner in crime, and a priority.
If I had to guess, I bet the majority of you who keep up with our lives think that we don’t fight, we don’t struggle, and that we spend most of our nights cuddled up on the couch telling each other how much we’re in love. (Okay, maybe not the last part… but you get what I’m saying!)
We do that… sporadically. Most times, however, he stays busy outside of the house or we are in completely separate rooms doing our own things.
We both have very independent personalities and value time to ourselves, which is completely fine. Maybe that is why I started blogging in the first place? Writing here is something I can do just for me. (Well, and you guys!)
Our two year anniversary is coming up next month, and when I take a step back to look at everything we have been through during that time, it is a little overwhelming.Losing his job, leaving the NBA, seeing our savings turn into bill payments, questioning the future, depending on each other, working two jobs (and blogging) while Scott stayed home to look for work, Scott getting a job, moving up north, settling into a new city, leaving family, meeting new people, dancing in the NBA again, adjusting to living in freezing cold weather, working from home, putting kids on hold…
I mean, just thinking about going through everything again is exhausting!
I am going out on a limb sharing these details of our relationship with you all, but I am doing so with a clear purpose: to share we are not perfect, nor did I ever claim to be, nor do I ever want to be.
We get mad at each other. We fight. We get jealous. We get protective. We still question having children, and if so, when the right time would be.
The last two years of our relationship have been the most difficult and challenging by far. We have had a lot of trials and things pop up that get in the way of being happy… but you will never see it here.
Why I Don’t Post The Bad
I cringe when people whine on social media. I understand everyone gets frustrated and has bad days, but you will never see me complaining about something like that there. This is not because bad things don’t happen to me!
I believe there is a time and a place to talk about struggles, and I just do not think it is appropriate to do so in a status update.
Of course there are times I post about getting a parking ticket, quitting a workout program, or sharing when something just isn’t working out for me. I often share those things in a humorous way, while making fun of myself.
We all have those days, and it is completely normal.
I choose to keep the negative things to myself because I do not enjoy reading negative thoughts, nor do I enjoy being around negative people. I appreciate when people open up and share personal struggles and challenges, and I think it is important to share the good and the bad about certain situations, but in an appropriate setting.
When meeting one of my readers recently (Hi Tanya!) she mentioned that she appreciates when I include cheat meals or pictures of desserts in my posts because it shows I am “not a robot.” Ha! I literally laughed out loud at that and her, because it was funny and so true. How do people know you indulge, cheat, or mess up if you never write about it?
Since then, I have been starting to wonder how people perceive my life, and my relationships.
I’m Not Perfect
I am a housewife, but I am also a hard worker. I am a dancer, and I spend a lot of my time eating healthy, working out, and focusing on what it takes to keep up my appearance. I am a wife, and I spend a lot of time learning what it means to be a good one. I am a friend, but I am awful at checking up on people. I am a cook, but am FAR from calling myself any kind of chef.
I run into things. I break things. I fall. I lose my car keys (for weeks at a time! Not kidding!) I gain weight. I lose weight. I eat ice cream. I get disappointed in myself, and the older I get the more I have to work at being “glamorous.”
Turning 28 has been great for me. I am starting to realize who I am and who I’m not. At my age, some think I should already own my own home, have a steady career, and be working on Baby #2. At this moment in time, we aren’t even close to any of those things. Not only have I embraced it, but I prefer it that way.
I love my life. I love my marriage. I love my jobs, and I love being able to share everything with you.
I’m not perfect, and I love it.